By Ruth Diaz
As this model has grown in reputation, I have started getting the question: did you create this? My answer, after feeling my belly freeze and a sense of helplessness in never yet being able to find the words to explain that this is not "my Model," is usually something as if I tucked my tail between my legs, "It came through me." Does a mother create her child? Is it a co-creation? What about a surrogate mother? Would we say that she created the child who's genetic makeup completely originates from two others? These are the visuals and questions I have struggled with ever since I started teaching the first few layers in last fall.
One of my dearest friends and colleagues recently pointed out that Newton did not create gravity, he discovered it and explained it in a way that
others were able to grasp and build upon (literally!). I wholeheartedly embrace this parallel as one human being that has been supported and helped by this polarity model. If the model serves a similar purpose for others so that we as humans can get a sense of common ground on why we are held in certain patterns with each other, I will be celebrating and humbled for each new person it serves. I am honored to welcome this friend, (Ren Shimek) as a a website editor and co-discoverer of how this model can best serve those who want to change their sense of internal and environmental connection. She is doing the preliminary inquiries on challenging this model to a more classical research project, and I am thrilled to have her professional and personal wisdom, expertise (she is much more of a technology savant than me!), and oversight as we continue this experiment called human relationship.
The model is finally connecting relationships in new ways, which was always its design and purpose. Welcome Ren!
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