What does Figure It In mean?
Human is the opportunity, not the excuse
Figure It In, LLC is a training and consulting organization that collaboratively teaches that there are many ways we can return to compassion in a multitude of settings including schools, businesses, and even in our personal lives with friends and family. The best part is that learning how to return to compassion can help us find and grow meaningful connections within our most difficult and important relationships. Click here to read some examples of these growing connections. From the original website, www.returningtocompassion.com, here's a video that explain's the Returning to Compassion concept a bit more.
In a world where we are always trying to figure ourselves and everything else out, this organization and website are about trying on a new lens and considering what we can learn when we stop trying to separate ourselves and each other as the only solution to relationship conflict. We all find ourselves in situations that make us uncomfortable, often on a daily basis. We all want to rediscover the place inside where we feel safe and do not feel frightened. How might we begin figuring ourselves in when we feel split from our sense of humanness (either in ourselves or each other)?
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What is the Returning to Compassion Model?
The model is a visually stimulating relationship tool to help individuals, couples, and organizations recognize the fear-based triggers in relationship that lead to increasing conflict...
....and how to redirect these emotions into an abundance mindset and re-balance ourselves through trust and curiosity.
The video below is a 5 minute example of how we can reach a place of center again. It's simple and yet a powerful way to return to compassion within.
All empowering and awakening connections begin and end with gratitude.
More about the Returning to Compassion model
The model is an eye-catching visual that at first strikes most people as a 4 leaf clover instead of a map on Compassion. The first layer of the model, that explains scarcity (or a belief that there is “not enough”) started to formulate as early as 2006 when Ruth Diaz was working at a 900 bed homeless shelter in New York City. In 2015 the visual version that shows how we go from scarcity to abundance (and back again!) was completed while Ruth was working in an inpatient psychiatric hospital with those who were having such a difficult maintaining safe boundaries with their bodies and others around them that they were being held against their will. The model, which identifies roles like bully/victim and hero/bystander, gave children and other adults at the hospital the chance to stay conscious of their emotions and notice how their feelings were impacting their experience with each other. It shows how our emotions are actually connecting us with each other even if we feel like there is a disconnect.
The children’s ward helped develop the new roles they wanted to choose consciously and gave each of them symbols. For example, the villain or bully is reframed as a challenger and reminds all of us that when we feel frustrated we get to remember to use the clarity of our discomfort to creatively offer the bite-sized pieces to those we feel conflicted around. These conscious challenges can bring us all back to our hearts. The villain or bully was given the symbol of the spiral because the spiral captures our focus and helps us come back to our center.
Full Prezi version
This is the beginning of disconnect and conflict. Notice how this feels true for you... recall a story when you've felt this experience before
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Listen to a radio episode on the model:
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