The DOT (Deepen Orient Transform) model is a visually stimulating relationship tool to help individuals, couples, families, leaders, and organizations recognize fear-based triggers in relationships that lead to increased conflict and disconnect. By recognizing the archetypes we align with (e.g., villain, victim, bystander, ect), we can redirect these emotions from a place of scarcity into abundance, and re-balance ourselves through trust and curiosity.
The DOT model is a standalone teachable template that invites each of us― when we are feeling trapped or frozen― to come back to a sense of connection with each other and ourselves. It is designed so we learn how to re-center without using anything on the outside changing to fit our needs. It is a re-orienting “compass” that identifies polarizing relationships patterns, the non-verbals and emotions that accompany these reactive dances, and where one fits in those polarities. Using a catchy visual and simple recipe for each polarity/archetype we embody in negative interactions; it teaches us how to get back to the humanness of heart and reconnect to those around us in a meaningful way.
Used with a variety of populations, this model will help with any kind of relationship to support a new understanding of when we are caught in compassion-fatigue cycles instead of inspiring connections. As everyone remembers their curiosity, more relationship opportunities are evident around us, more insight is gained within our own reactive patterns, and more connection is found in the group dynamics of our family, friendship, and professional circles. The model reminds us of the growth effects we are all having on each other and ourselves.
Below you will find a full visual of the DOT model from the scarcity perspective. Note that the initial response for the typical visitor is confusion and overwhelm looking at this as there is a lot of information below! This visual is more of a reference for those who have encountered the model through a training already and are visiting this page to refresh their understanding of it or share it with others. The DOT model is best learned and understood through a collaborative training or conversation around conflict. If you want to learn more, please follow the link beneath the photo!
This might be overwhelming to look if you've never seen the DOT model. It is meant more to be available for those who have already seen a demonstration of the DOT model.