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New Horizons for Community in VR

10/1/2020

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Many of you might not know this about me, but in my down time, between being a therapist and organizational consultant, I am a technology geek and follow the latest topics like the newest digital art creation programs and other gadgetry trends. I like to do digital collage (like the piece to the left from 2015) and have enjoyed learning new ways to create multi-layered digital experiences over the years in a variety of art programs. A few years ago my brother generously shipped me his custom built...


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Seperatness and Belonging

9/10/2020

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I haven't written here in almost a year. In my personal life, I've been in a period of deep silence as a human being. Most of my friends and all of my family has faded away slowly into a profound silence between us that feels more and more like it might last for the rest of my life. I have been questioning myself at every level of who I am and what I am doing on this planet...


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Presence and Purpose

11/20/2019

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Michael Meade, a world renown mythologist who applies ancient 'tales' to modern times, has been talking lately about the liminal period of time we are in. Liminal means whatever is above sub-liminal, or the place where we can obviously see that the rhythms of chaos and creation meet. It is the threshold in-between where we are and where we want to be. As individuals within a greater bubble of consciousness, intention, and action, how can we exist in the in-between that all of us are in without feeling torn apart by uncertainty and longing? I believe that while it is the hardest place to exist from... 


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Transforming Resentment

11/16/2019

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Each year as the holidays approach, dread seems to consume me more and more. For example, it has been at least two years since I stopped listening to Christmas music, eight years since I decorated anything for ANY holiday, and one year since I resolved on Thanksgiving that it would be my last. This reflection is about transforming my resentment by calling myself out...


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"To the Withered Toes:" On Atonement vs Apology

10/7/2019

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[The following is an excerpted and edited version of a paper written in college. Full circle, I am once again looking at the difference between atonement and apology in my life and found it less painful and more relevant to share publicly some of my story.] Atonement is a loaded word in my family. First, there are religious connotations (e.g., the biblical “atonement day” that my family observed for many years), then there are associations with family failures to resolve conflicts, and if ever discussed together, I imagine there would probably be a philosophical debate of the general definition and atonement’s importance.


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How will you be re-meme-bered?

10/2/2019

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​Aha moments are a trending title these days with Oprah and Brene` Brown on the forefront of the media coverage around finding our soul in a society warped by appearance and short-term fixes of every kind. Consider the meme phenomena of social media, which is often criticized as a lazy venting of semi-cooked thoughts. It also might be that memes are often a simplified nugget of a person’s aha-ha moment. I've been called out online for


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Radical Candor

6/21/2019

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According to Kim Scott, Radical Candor means challenging directly while caring personally. Kim is a leadership development coach who's worked with some of the top tech companies' leadership in the world. Her model has released me to be more me as leader and human. One of my favorite ah-hah!’s from Kim’s stories was recognizing that I can be perceived as obnoxiously aggressive or ruinously empathic and I might have been consciously practicing Radical Candor all along. The goal is not to have everyone going around and hi-fiving me for being perfectly radically candid!

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Scarcity versus Abundance

4/26/2019

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The star system to the left is called Eta Carinae. It is at least two stars who have rubbed against each other in an implosive and explosive way. I found these stars when looking up a visual representation through google images of abundance and scarcity. These stars have an abundance of some elements and a scarcity of others. Together, they represent one of the brightest stars in the sky... sometimes.


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Civility in Polarized Times

4/12/2019

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Where does civility matter most during the increasingly polarized time we are all living in? 

A friend recently invited me to a talk on Civility by the Masons at a local lodge. The speaker, Russ Charvonia, asked the audience to consider the difference between debate and discourse.


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Challenging Binary Bathrooms

4/5/2019

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This post started in March of 2018 as a title, draft, and intention to address gender discrimination. I believe that it is up to the privileged to redistribute our power and bring greater inclusivity and safe places, which will create diverse environments for all. Figure It In is about remembering the harm of compartmentalizing and how to begin including all the puzzle pieces (and people) into the equation. In this situation, my role as the leader of my Returning to Compassion Counseling LLC and Figure It In, LLC businesses was finding a way to bring unisex bathrooms to the building where I rent my offices.

This morning, 13 months later, uni-sex bathrooms are finally a reality throughout the building! I am telling this story to model the conversation on how change happens considering that when I researched non-binary restrooms activism, I didn't find any such posts/blogs/articles that offered this recipe.

​Here are the highlights of the process of calling my building manager and owner IN (versus calling them OUT and publicly humiliating them).


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    Ruth Diaz, LPC, Psy.D. is a counselor, organizational consultant, and coach on connecting relationships with ourselves and each other at every level. She currently works as an organizational consultant and therapist in Portland, Oregon.

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